Okay, so I just had to share this with everyone. If you have not read my post "You might be rude and ignorant if..." you may want to read it before reading this. They go together. But, I'll explain from the beginning for those who just aren't going to read it.
Okay, so I'm a single mom, duh, we all know that. And people don't like to accept that. Especially Christians. People have said some of the most rude and ignorant things in regards to my daughter, Elisabeth. Today I encountered a new one.
I was at a Christian bookstore with Elisabeth. The guy working was very friendly and Elisabeth was actually talking to him! (For those of you who know her, she won't even talk to my brother when people are around, let alone strangers.) Obviously since I'm not married, I don't wear a ring and I don't try to hide the fact that there is no ring on my left hand.
So, I guess this guy didn't think my daughter looked like me, or couldn't accept the fact that *gasp* I had sex and wasn't married. I don't know which, and I really don't care. Well, as we were leaving, he asked me if Elisabeth was adopted. I thought I heard wrong, so I replied "What?" (Not even sure if he was talking to me because his back was turned at this point.) He asked again "So, she's your adopted daughter?" and I politely (because it was a "Christian" bookstore) said "No, she's mine, my real daughter." All he could say was "Oh, have a nice night".
Okay, to quote Nicky, "Who does that?" (apparently this guy) Who just asks a stranger if their kid is adopted?! If this isn't rude and ignorant, I don't know what is! Maybe it was because my hair was straight I don't know.
Here's a word from the wise (that would be me). NEVER ask a stranger if their child is adopted. Even if both parents are one color and the child another. Let them volunteer the information. If you ask this question, I can guarantee that you ARE rude and ignorant.
Why do I always seem to find these people!